Anxiety in Kids
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It’s common for kids to feel nervous or anxious in social situations. With some reassurance and guidance most kids learn to cope with these feelings and overcome them.
However for a child who is experiencing social anxiety disorder, these fears and worries are extreme and persistent.
Some kids naturally cope with meeting new people while others find it very difficult, some enjoy being the centre of attention but other kids may find it really uncomfortable and some kids may experience a higher level of discomfort in some social situations and not others.
Kids with social anxiety disorder may display the following traits:
Every child is different so some situations may trigger social anxiety for certain children and not others. Keeping this in mind, there are some common situations that a child may find distressing if they have social anxiety:
The underlying fear causing social anxiety is usually related to a belief that something bad will happen.
For example, a child may think “I might say something stupid and people will stop liking me”.
Even if a reassuring parent or adult tells them not to worry, the thought or belief won’t go away.
They may do the following:
While it’s difficult to remove anxiety completely, you can help your child learn ways to deal with these thoughts and feelings so it doesn’t stop them enjoying life. Some of the following ideas can help:
Listen and offer support – take time to understand what they’re going through and reassure them that you care
Teach them relaxation techniques and ways to calm themselves (eg. deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation)
Avoid telling them to ‘calm down’ or ‘relax’ – this can make them feel worse, especially if they feel they have no control over the anxiety
Try to teach assertive communication - show them it’s ok to give their opinion or ask for what they want (even though they may not get it)
Support your child to seek help through your local GP, psychologist or counsellor if their social anxiety persists
Affirm your child’s strengths and their worth - show them that you value their opinion and praise the things they do well
Monitor your own actions – role model positive coping strategies (eg. relaxation, exercise, deep breathing)
Help them practice being in social situations - start with easier situations first and work up to more difficult ones
Do some role plays – help them practice having difficult conversations
Put any setbacks into perspective – help them to let go of unrealistic or negative thoughts and to not give up if things don’t work out
Supporting a child experiencing social anxiety can be challenging and it’s important to take care of yourself and seek support when you need it.
If social anxiety is impacting your child’s quality of life, you can talk through options with your local doctor.
If you child needs support to manage anxiety they can also call Kids Helpline and talk with a counsellor.
If you need some support and guidance on how to cope with and help your child manage their anxiety, give us a call on 1300 30 1300 (QLD & NT) and speak to one of our trained counsellors.
Not living in QLD or NT? Check out this list of Parentline counselling services in each State and Territory.
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