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As a parent you play an important role in helping your child have respectful relationships as well as build their own self-respect.
As parents we value respect and want our kids to respect us...
Respect is a word that gets used a lot but it can be difficult to define.
Most people would say they know when they’re being treated respectfully but they might have trouble explaining what it is.
It can also be hard to know when we’re being disrespectful towards others, especially when we feel upset and may have a hard time maintaining self-control.
Being respectful is something we learn through interactions with other people. Being respectful can come easily to some children but not others.
As a parent you play an important role helping your child build self-respect and the skills they need to respect others.
What kinds of respect are there?
Respect in relationships exists in many forms:
- Self-respect
- Respect for others
- Respect for possessions
- Respect for authority
- Respect for the law
How do you recognise respect in a relationship?
Respect is about showing that you value other people through your words and actions. You treat other people with care and you consider how your words or actions may affect them.
In respectful relationships, the following are put into action:
- The right to be safe, valued and cared for
- Being supported to make our own choices
- Being accepted as a person even if you’ve made a mistake
- Encouraging others to grow, learn and succeed
- Freedom to disagree without being put down, called names or hurt
- Not dominating or controlling others
- Listening and taking turns to be heard
- Supporting other's needs and wellbeing
- Trust, honesty and taking care with other's personal information
- Not intimidating others or being aggressive
Disrespectful relationships can affect your child
Kids may experience a lack of respect in their relationships at home or at school.
When kids aren’t feeling safe, supported and cared for, they may show this through their behaviour and emotions.
A child who is feeling distressed or unsafe may experience:
- Poor sleeping habits
- Nausea or headaches
- Depression or anxiety
- Low self-confidence or esteem
- Changes in appetite (under or overeating)
- Lack of trust in family and friends
- Breakdown in friendships
- Relationship conflicts or breakdown
- Alcohol or drug abuse
How can you help your child learn about respectful relationships?
Teaching your child the skills to be respectful helps them to value their needs as well as other's needs.
Try active listening by taking a moment to repeat back what you hear them say, eg. "so what I heard you say is…"
Learn to be assertive and ask for what you want in a calm yet firm way without being passive or aggressive
Understanding and empathy – ask yourself what your child’s world is like right now. What might they be going through?
Conflict resolution – try to negotiate on the little things but at the same time identify the big issues that are non-negotiable
Decision making skills – avoid imposing solutions, encourage your child to think of options and consequences first
Be honest - this will encourage trust and acceptance in the relationship and avoid misunderstandings and potential conflict
Anger management – teach kids to stop, think and then speak their minds in a calm way
Problem solving skills – help your child name the problem and express their feelings in words so you can discuss it and find a solution together
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This content was last reviewed 10/05/2018
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